Sis You're Single, and That's Okay

Being single in your 20's and seeing your peers in relationships all around you kind of sucks. Especially after you've just gotten out of a serious relationship no matter how long and intense it was for you. I was 19 years old in a deep relationship to the point where we were talking about marriage. Yeah, I was young and dumb. I learned a lot from that relationship, but mainly what I don't want in one. I wish him well and luck in his life, but it really left a sour taste in my mouth. I was only in a relationship in college, and I really didn't know who I was as a single woman in this world. I felt the need to jump back into a relationship.

I would wake up and see my roommate in love, my girlfriends all booed up, and even my crush was getting some. At that point I felt like I should get back with my ex, and I did for a short period of time, I went back to him so that I wouldn't feel alone. Poor choice to be honest.

So to occupy my time, I found hobbies and began to look on the bright side of things. I would see people on my timeline getting annoyed with their significant other, and I would say to myself:

Then things began to look up for me. I began to enjoy being single. No one to answer to? Yes please!

Honestly being in your early twenties is a fabulous time to be single. I don't know why everyone my age is so pressed to find "the one." I'm not trying to be held down at 20 before I'm even legally able to drink, like what kind of sense does that make?

Now I'm not saying that I'm not ever interested in anyone, but I'm not interested in being in a serious relationship with anyone. And when I start dating again, it would have to be a serious relationship. Thus, I'm listening to Ari Lennox and not dating these niggas til I'm 43.

There are so many things that I want to do with my life while I'm young that settling down and falling in love interfere with. I'm trying to start a business, get my Ph.D., produce some works, and so much more. Having to worry about making time to care for another human will take away from that.

I have the right to be selfish as a twenty-something single woman. I can go where I please and when I please too.

So I hope my ramble doesn't convince you that you're single and that's okay because I'm single and I know that I'm okay.